The generational wounds in your cells.
The balance of Yin and Yang, the complement of two opposite yet interconnected poles that attract each other. A challenge in a dual world full of conditioning and ideas about how things should be. But it includes EVERYTHING, not just in relationships or sexuality, it is necessary in all areas of life and is the key to a new earth. First it can come into balance within you, then this will become visible on the outside without any effort.
The way we do something is how we do everything. That’s why we’re examining one area today and changing the big picture.
Love on a soul level…. It doesn’t fit into any concept, you can’t own it, you can’t hold on to it, it lives from the constant willingness to trust the unknown.
….The woman longs for a man to hold her, she wants to let herself go, to be feminine, to dance with the flow of life, she wants to be sensual and full of strength. Living your gift, creating peace…
But why do so few people experience this in reality?
Because we have lost basic trust and because we have learned a completely distorted image of men and women.
We were taught masculinity as providing for the family.
They need power, status and money – please don’t cry, that’s totally unmanly. Always keep busy. Please don’t feel, you are not a person with emotions, after all you are a man.
We can go back centuries and see: the wounds of our ancestors are embedded in the bones of our bodies.
Men have accepted this and are constantly striving for success. Higher, faster, further.
After more…..
But more of what actually? With what intention?
To live the lack of love in exchange for the cheap exchange of recognition/confirmation. To numb the inability to love.
We have exactly two ways that are the reason for this:
A mother who couldn’t let go of her son (she overloved him – well, more like she wanted love) and so he doesn’t want love anymore because he thinks it’s oppressive and costs him his needs or rather, his supposed freedom. Love was a lousy game in his childhood and negotiable. Because he interprets his mother’s lack as love, rather than as a mother who took out her unresolved wounds of lack of love on him.
Or a mother who conveyed love only through performance. Love had to be earned. Then men believe they have to work like crazy to be worth something.
Either you become macho or you become a wimp. Basically, all are wimps – the others just hide it better 😉
Of course, something like this can also come from the father; there are many forms of it. The absent father also causes men to strive because they beg for their father’s approval. And this pattern, if they don’t solve it, continues into old age. Unfortunately, it was never enough. You can learn to scale and automate as much as you want. If your beliefs remain hidden that you only earn money and love if you work hard… That’s a separate topic for a separate blog.
Today it’s about the mother wound that says:
LOVE IS DANGEROUS.
What does it cost us not to heal these wounds? What if we continue to chase one’s own tail?
We see this best in politics. It is because of these unresolved wounds that so many toxic people are in power. Let’s be honest, we wouldn’t follow a humble man who serves love. We wouldn’t take him seriously. One who leads and does not rule.
NOT YET
The man, he doesn’t want to feel, that’s why he doesn’t lead properly. Because perception and mindfulness are closed behind mountains of generational wounds.
Masculine leadership means being present and mindful. She doesn’t patronize you; she lets you be who you are. It lets you dance in the light and in the shadows, it doesn’t compensate for anything. It reinforces everything you feel. She is the Buddha who doesn’t need big words. But I’m not talking about idle or even boring rest. It is the calm that a fire has. A look that ignites. Clarity that only takes one decision and can move mountains. It is the giving energy that you can never surrender to. Because when you are awakened as a woman, she only gives you the opportunity to surrender to yourself and to life itself. And he observes, directs, is silent, guides, gives, feels…
The state of awakening no longer mixes energies: they complement each other.
This requires independence, and I’m not talking about making money and living alone – we’re too good at that. I’m talking about facing the truth without compensation, showing yourself vulnerable without wanting to have it, enduring the silence, staying in it and taking responsibility for the inner hurt parts.
But how do we end up there?
Men, a note: The most important thing is your suppressed anger, it has to come out.
Everyone can start with themselves. It all starts there. In small and large ways.
We won’t change anything in politics, in this earth, in the systems if we don’t understand that our energies feed them, and we can CLEAN UP. Breaking through the toxic patterns… We do the same thing at home, just unobserved.
The new earth, it screams. Until we finally wake up.
The last war on earth will be the war that everyone wages within themselves – to discover the truth. Then, only then will we really change something.
So now to the women:
We women force men to be powerful and to have STATUS. They have to be quick-witted and always on point. We feed the pattern of ignorant mothers.
We want leadership so much; we can’t actually do it anymore. We live so much against our natural energies. Fighting for equality (total nonsense because men and women are not equal). We think that would be the solution. Because we don’t know how to do it properly. We no longer want the oppression that has taken place for years. But we don’t achieve this with equality, but with humility and love for ourselves. Please start with yourself. Your body, your gift, to perceive yourself as the most beautiful thing on earth.
But how can you represent your own needs if you don’t even know what your needs are?
That’s why we can’t trust. We do want to be led, but only in the way we want, and we educate our men. Dual souls disappear immediately. And the Adam-Eve relationships have a bad love life, let’s call it a barter deal, a commercial contract – because they need each other. We women have become better men.
We don’t want a man; we want someone who pleases us.
Our dual is the stopgap for the love we never received.
The woman projects her own dissatisfaction onto the man and wants to solve it there.
Because your own mirror is so painful that it is the easier option. We are constantly nagging them, blaming them, energetically with them or better yet, everywhere on the outside, just not with ourselves. But where a woman’s energy belongs. You don’t trust the divine, and you don’t trust the masculine and the movement of energy when something moves towards you, because you simply don’t know it. Trapped in the cage of your suppressed needs. That’s why you can’t let anyone approach you without control because you’re afraid that your boundaries will be violated. You can’t pull one, not because you’re incompetent, but because you don’t even know when and where to pull it. You don’t trust your perception.
Welcome to commitment anxiety. But no, I know, it’s his fault 😉 He doesn’t heal.
Where does that come from?
Here are also two variants:
The absent father whose attention you so desperately needed. You did everything, but he didn’t give you what you needed because he was hurting himself. To this day, you repeat this pattern over and over again, telling yourself how far you have come. 😉
Or the princess daddy. Were you his one and only?
I’m sorry to tell you this. He screwed you over. The world is not so simple that everything goes according to your ideas and someone is constantly circling around you. Grow up. He has made himself irreplaceable, who will meet these demands?
Of course, there is also the mother here who expected too much because she wanted it. But that will be a separate article. Today we’re talking about the two main types.
The chasing woman and the avoiding man. Giver and avoider or colloquially: let go and clarify emotions.
Dear woman… Heal, wake up, remember – the divine woman you have always been.
You have to let him go and you have to love yourself. He will conquer you if you let him.
If trauma can be passed down through generations, then so can healing.
Where did this disaster begin?
Of course, we don’t just bear these wounds from our parents; that would be too shallow. They lie far back, deep in the stories of our ancestors and ancestors. Our parents are also just conditioned.
Let’s go deeper:
Love wasn’t allowed to win.
Whether beggars or kings, we were all forced into marriage, and when we met true love, we had secret affairs and were killed or tortured.
You were either an asshole and killed, or you were killed. That’s where the fear of death comes from. If you live out your gift too visibly, you fear death – who wants the truth?
If you speak your mind and assert yourself, you fear being a bad person, an asshole.
The feminine is directly connected to the divine, completely different from the male version. Of course, healing abilities were labeled as witches and burned. They wanted control and power – not love. The battle of the ego over who is the best or who is the best (as it still is today) – instead of recognizing how individual we all are and that that is enough for everyone. To this day we live by it (in a modified form) because we don’t want to see or feel through the generational wounds. Because love wants to GIVE, but we finally want to receive and get. That’s why we tell ourselves that we have a femininity problem and that we need to practice receiving 🙂
Because the truth destroys you before it sets you free.
How do we really end up there? In our unit.
The dark power has to get out of your cells. The wounds that are so deep within you that you keep going in circles. You heal and heal and don’t arrive.
For this purpose, I developed the online training Dynamics between men and women of the new era. 4 hours that will change your life forever. In a Healing Journey you will release powers and occupations at their roots, learn how to communicate correctly in order to remain stable in your center, how setting boundaries really works, how men and women of the new age meet and much more…
Words are not enough for the truth. There is enough knowledge. We fail at implementation. Change must be made noticeable. In you. Feel it and decide.