When you can finally breathe. By reading this article, you’ll learn why this phase, despite everything, has its ups and downs.You’ve mastered a lot if you’ve arrived here or are just beginning to finally enjoy your life.
- You have freed yourself from fears.
- You have resolved blockages.
- You can set healthy, loving boundaries.
- You have healed deep childhood wounds.
- You have worked through your father and mother issues.
- You have said goodbye to people who no longer fit into your life.
- You have found your true calling and are probably in the process of living it.
- You have let go.
- You have put yourself first in your life.
… and you’ve accomplished so much more.
Your perspective becomes clearer and clearer, and living in a partnership with your twin soul is no longer so important. You’ve put yourself in that position. You are now the most important person in your life.
CONGRATULATIONS.
You are satisfied with yourself, you enjoy your life, and you are grateful. You live in the HERE and NOW. You are no longer interested in yesterday or tomorrow. You trust yourself, and your energy flow has revolved around 180 degrees. It’s no longer all about your twin soul; instead, you use the energy you once poured into him for yourself.
No, he’s not gone, but your love no longer flows constantly to him. Instead, you have integrated his love within you, and therefore you no longer need an external mirror to show you your wounds and deficiencies.
His love is with you. You are whole. 😊
No, he’s not gone, but your love no longer flows towards him constantly. Instead, you’ve integrated his love within yourself, and therefore you no longer need an external mirror to show you your wounds and deficiencies.
His love is with you. You are whole. 😊
How beautiful that is…
…and yet, there are still challenges in this phase. It’s not as if we simply move from one phase to the next. They alternate from time to time. You weren’t working at your limits yesterday and now you’re jumping into the joys of life today. The phases alternate again and again. Life is still testing you.
Every now and then, the universe’s tests still bring situations to the surface that challenge you.
You fall back briefly, then you complete a few extra study tasks, and finally, inner peace returns. However, you can handle your feelings and setbacks well.
When you experience bad feelings, you no longer, have to escape from those; you feel them directly because you’ve experienced how quickly they dissolve after receiving a few minutes of attention.
You do no longer need an external substitute source to pacify your fears.
I’ve often experienced this feeling as if I’d become my own best friend and life coach. I trust my body’s wisdom.
But why do we always fall out of the joy of life at the beginning and feel thrown back? And how do we best deal with it?
I would describe it like this:
In the last four phases, you’ve always been tidying up or clearing out something. Imagine an old basement that hasn’t been entered for years. Because it’s only the twin soul that enables us to find the door to this basement. The basement of the depths and we didn’t even know it existed.
Through your encounter with your soulmate, you are challenged to clear out this basement.
First, the cobwebs must go, then the old boxes and pieces of furniture. The view becomes increasingly clear, and eventually, you even dislike the basement windows and floor.
You do also get the feeling that it is necessary to paint it newly.
You are releasing traumas, conditioning from your past, karmic entanglements, and much more. Everything is being dissolved. (Cleared out)
When everything is out, and I mean everything, when every last corner of this basement has been renovated and even wiped down and polished, something profound happens. The energy flow changes. You’re no longer clearing out; instead, you’re organizing.
What should your life look like now??? After nothing is the same as before??
This was a very challenging phase for me. Because we have no experience with RECEIVING.
Four things you absolutely must keep in mind:
First:
You can now say NO and stand up for your needs.
But your twin soul senses your change, even if he or she isn’t aware of it.
This means that if you give it little or no energy because you do no longer constantly think about him and you do no longer project everything onto him, he will automatically lose his energy.
You have now learned to use your energy for yourself.
Thus, you will feel that he is pulling you. You feel it. Of course, he is not aware that everything he feels reaches you.
Now it’s not just about setting boundaries externally, but also energetically.
You will also experience many situations in your environment in which you do not only express your boundaries, but also have to set them energetically. This demands a lot from you at the beginning, because the basement hasn’t been reorganized yet and what you’ve just learned hasn’t been consolidated. That’s why we keep falling BACK here, even though that’s not really true: Life supports us in consolidating and implementing what’s new.
Second:
When will my twin flame finally come to me??
As long as you’re still asking yourself this, you haven’t truly reached the final phase yet. Hang in there – you can do it.
It’s important to understand what this state of joy feels like.
I once did let him go, him as a person, his body – that is, his external form. But I integrated his soul – that is, his love – deep within me.
After all, you are one. If you reject him, you reject yourself. That’s counterproductive. You love him without wanting to be loved. You’ve died an ego death. But you no longer tolerate his behavior. So if he’s still in a relationship, contacts you, or just wants to say hello for an hour, you’re no longer interested.
You see, love, and tolerate nothing other than his and your true core. (That’s the boundary you’ve set (energetically)).
Your value has increased so much, you no longer tolerate friendship, affairs, or any of that. But his love is within you!!! Unconditional.
After all, you no longer physically need his love. Sure, it would be a nice icing on the cake. But it’s no longer a MUST. You’ve learned to no longer perceive him as your only source of love. You’ve chosen deep, unconditional love, no matter what form it takes.
You feel his true core, no longer the shell that hurt you so incredibly deeply. When you reach the final phase, you feel the love so intensely because you are continuously one with it. YOU are EVERYTHING. The separation in your heart has dissolved. It has simply let you go, and tears are almost streaming down my face as I write this because I know how incredibly painful and rocky this road has been, always having the aim to get here. Please be so incredibly happy about yourself and about what you’ve accomplished.
Third:
You’re still completely new to your new self. It was difficult for me to create something new, even though I knew my vision exactly. But implementation requires a step-by-step approach, and you don’t always know exactly where to start. Especially since all areas usually collapse at once. That’s what happened to me. 😊 So much room for something new. But who am I, and what do I really want?
Here, I’ve distinguished between two principles:
This is again about external clarity: How do I spend my time, doing what, and with whom?
New job? New hobbies? New environment? Etc.
But it’s also about internal clarity.
Because external things only change a part. I’m happy if you have new friendships, but that’s not enough if you fall back into your giver-helper pattern.
So the question is:
How am I with people? How do I interact with people? How do I want to be treated? What should my environment be like? What does my daily routine look like? What are my hobbies? How do I feel throughout the day? What new values do I represent? How am I when someone crosses my boundaries? What thoughts do I think throughout the day? And much more.
FEEL what you truly need, otherwise you’ll quickly become like a recovering alcoholic who’s just come out of rehab but hasn’t changed his or her behavioral patterns.
In my transformation program, we work very precisely here because I know how important this final phase is. You’ve spent your entire life giving to others and putting your needs aside. This means your energy movement has always been TOWARDS. Now it’s about receiving, and you have no experience with that at all. This also requires your intellect, patience, and the ability to create CLARITY to initiate and implement the necessary steps.
Fourth:
You can’t achieve a fulfilling twin soulmate unless you’ve become an emotionally stable person or the parent of your inner child. 😊
If things in everyday life still easily throw you off track, know this: You can still build stability within yourself. The universe gives you many triggers and opportunities for this. 😊
Stability for me came from spending a lot of time with myself. I mean, you now have a new best friend, and your life has never been about your needs. Get to know yourself, spend a lot of time in silence, and listen to yourself. Just like you do with good friends.
Dear twin soul lovers, I hope from the bottom of my heart that you were able to gain something valuable from this.
Here you will find the link to our Healing Journey to release your deepest parental wounds right at the root, for a fulfilling partnership on a soul level:
In deep love,
Sabrina Spinnler