…if it is lived properly.
As many people still largely identify with their ego instead of their soul, we turn sexuality into something completely different from what it actually is.
It is important for the ego to deliver, to experience it as pressure relief or confirmation. Some even use it as a distraction so as not to feel certain things. Even recognition and affirmation, as well as the hope of experiencing love through it, is possible.
Sex from the ego is the question: where can I quickly get what I need to feel better?
But does it really make us feel better?
It is a search on the outside and therefore serves lower energies.
Sexuality is much more like a physical act.
In truth, sexuality is the highest form of unity. It is creative power and serves the purpose of healing and awakening so that your potential can fully unfold. It dissolves deep fears into thin air and takes you to a higher plane…It is something divine.
But if it is lived out incorrectly, it tends to make men tired afterwards and women feel bad, sometimes even used.
But we basically long for masculinity and femininity and to live this polarity, we have just never learned how to do it and then practice BDSM, among other things:
The game of dominance and submissiveness, the ego’s attempt for the woman to finally let herself go and live her longing for devotion…
…and the man regains his repressed masculinity and presence through control.
It will never lead to true satisfaction because you cannot physically practice what you long for inwardly/soulfully.
If the woman lets herself fall physically to the point of complete surrender, it means physical death. If she surrenders emotionally, she AWAKENS.
If the man lets her FEEL everything and DRIVES – not controls – he also awakens.
Sex is not for quick stimulation to release pressure or negative feelings.
But what’s going wrong?
Women often get attention in dating through desire and their sexual charms because they haven’t learned what it’s like to be truly loved. They want to be loved, but don’t know how to go about it and get attention from men through their charms and give themselves away far too quickly.
A sign of a lack of self-worth!
In order to break this cycle, a lot of awareness and healing must take place beforehand. Because a man who stays cannot be kept in the long term with physicality.
If you know who you are and don’t want anything, then you open yourself up regardless of losses, but you are 100% with yourself and your value.
As a woman, you first have to be “WORTH it” and learn to show and live your vulnerability and at the same time draw boundaries and stand up for yourself.
But why is it so difficult for many to allow this?
Because with real closeness, light and shadow come to the surface in equal measure and you have to take 100% responsibility for your own parts.
It is unconditional, you reveal yourself without wanting anything – that would be ego again.
This is so challenging because we first have to love and acknowledge our own imperfection. It’s crazy that we are afraid of being truly loved. Because this person can then see everything about us, including the parts that we ourselves like to run away from. Yes, because it’s about self-love and no, you don’t have to love yourself 100%, but take 100% responsibility for not doing so. You should not get rid of all your shadows, but reveal them, but also not throw them at the other person’s feet, but let them flow through you. The other person is watching you and will also acknowledge your wounds and this is how pure surrender and acceptance happens. The woman then pours out an energy that also heals the man and takes him to a higher level.
The best way to do this is with a soul mate. Everyone wants one – until they meet him/her and feel 😊 …how challenging and at the same time divine it is. Soul love is a mirror that is meant to empower you. No, it’s not just funny and harmonious, but it’s true and real!
Sabrina, the men always run away from me or I attract the wrong ones:
I’m often asked what you have to do to make a man stay. You have to make him feel what he’s never felt before by letting go and giving up the lead. No, not just when he’s ready and you’ve controlled and checked everything. But through unconditionality, vulnerability and surrender. Then he can take you to a place where you lose your mind and then he wants it too. Because then he has to be masculine and if he’s not, you know the right one is coming. If you fall down and someone is standing next to you, it automatically triggers the impulse to catch you. But women have to take the first step and give themselves up…
That is true lack of inhibition and also proof of how much shame and guilt we still have.
We learned as children that we have to perform and deliver.
When we were sad, we were given a lollipop to shove in our mouths and that was that.
The fact that all emotions are desired and allowed was a bad thing rather than a blessing (which it is).
That’s why many people avoid emotions they can’t control.
But the longing to merge is anchored in everyone.
If you want him to protect you, you have to stop protecting yourself from him.
Men don’t grow as consciously as we women do, they react. The perfect mirror to see again and again in which consciousness you are currently and which topics you can still look at on your own responsibility. You are a queen, not a beggar.
The biggest misconception about surrender:
Sabrina, if I surrender and open up then he has the power to play with me. We dissolve 🙂
No, he only has that if you are needy. An awakened woman loves a man as he is, as he was and as he will be. But she doesn’t want anything. She is in agreement. She knows her worth and therefore she is not afraid of being hurt, she gets it mirrored and she knows that and when she gets hurt she also knows that it serves her growth. But she is open.
The feminine IS LOVE, you can never find it on the outside. You have to learn to be your own emotional home. You can be triggered – but please resolve it yourself. Partnership in the new era does not mean sorting everything out together. This is one of the main reasons why polarity is lost in partnerships and sexuality no longer takes place.
When you know your worth, you give yourself to yourself. You can’t give yourself to a man. You are a goddess. So you can, but then you would be turning the energy inside out and the feminine is receiving and not giving.
It’s about loving because you are love, not about being loved. (so also 😊 but not at any price)
Heal your wounded parts and land in your own power.
A conscious man doesn’t fill your bottomless pit, which you can’t fill yourself. An awakened man wants a woman and knows how creative we are as beings and he also knows that he needs this to grow.
If you find it difficult to stay with yourself and want to heal wounded parts, feel free to download our Healing Journey:
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What is sexuality?
Sexuality is the intrinsic urge to create and it is something sacred that is so much bigger than ourselves. A man also gives himself with all his feelings. Yes, he gives up control, only for him it means that a natural instinct of leadership is awakened in him. He takes the feminine into himself and lets her feel (EVERYTHING) and is flooded with love through her devotion, which heals him and he knows it.
Sexuality is the expression of yourself, so to speak, so that you can rise up out of your little ego, which can never understand and control what you are capable of in your head.
It is the fire that burns within you and the vulnerability where you no longer have to represent anything. Polarity
Saint and whore.
In the man, as in the woman.
How does this deep sexuality arise?
Primarily not through the body, but through emotional intimacy. These are deep conversations about dreams and visions and about the fears in life and the connection that arises from this and then allows us to look into each other’s souls.
Also to be able to be silent with each other, to feel each other. It’s about mindfulness, not delivering. It’s about being with each other, not being afraid of each other.
A few more emotional words:
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Take her with all your desire, she is afraid of being recognized.
Observe her, she is afraid of being seen.
Feel how she changes, she is afraid of being judged.
Penetrate her soul, she is afraid to trust.
Feel her lust, she is afraid of falling into the void.
Hold her, she is afraid to love again.
Put your hand on her chest, she is afraid to be vulnerable and take on masculinity.
Show her your openness to her, then despite her fears she rushes into the feminine, surrendering, which is her own journey of healing.
The journey of true intimacy, which is the degree between revelation of inner wounds and throbbing desires.
This is where man and woman will meet, at the crossroads between longing and protective patterns.
She lets go, he is flooded with unconditional love and creation.
He awakens to her tenderness, he can no longer hide.
He can allow it, or withdraw.
He breathes deeply, in a masculine presence that means nothing more than to stay…
He trembles, he chooses the unknown, he places his wounded inner boy in her hands.
She holds him with her open heart, where his protective armor is also transformed into pure masculinity.
Now…they both look deep into each other’s souls, where love finds its true expression.
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