Why do I, as the one who lets go, have to do all the work?
I asked myself this question often at the beginning of this process. I kept hearing from him, „You don’t have to resolve everything emotionally.“ And transformation is all hocus-pocus. That was an interesting trigger for me Because I had long since realized that he was growing along with it without actively feeling it, and he really liked that back then.
The trigger here is that the person letting go ultimately wants to be loved and saved. Let’s be honest, if it didn’t hurt so damn much, I probably wouldn’t have moved a millimeter.
Still, it feels like he’s doing what he wants; you have to suffer and resolve things, and he’s healing along with you.
Dear woman learning to let go — this is EGO and a refusal to recognise your own greatness. You are a queen. If you want to be treated that way, act that way. It would never occur to her that she makes every decision alone on that throne and that all the responsibility rests with her. She learns how to handle this incredible POWER.
The Profile of the Emotional Clarifier:
The Emotional Clarifier is a tough man on the outside, but tender, lovable, and wounded on the inside. He learned from childhood that love isn’t available without something in return. Love is negotiable and therefore very dangerous. He is head-driven and wants to be perceived as strong, independent, successful, and respected.
He has a good job, is often highly sought after, and is usually in a relationship (or he quickly finds one – as soon as he meets his dual). THE PERFECT WORLD. Usually, the woman at his side is an emotional clarifier herself. None of this is true fulfillment, but that hasn’t been his goal for a long time.
On the outside, everything looks great, but in reality, he’s hiding his fears and the little hurt boy. He definitely doesn’t want to feel these wounds that he’s so well-hidden.
When he meets you, he doesn’t want hell, but he does want heaven. That’s why he takes exactly what he needs: beauty. And leaves you sitting with the rest, regardless of the consequences.
Twin souls bring out the most beautiful light and the deepest shadows.
Emotional clearers have built themselves a false world and wear a mask that they want to keep at all costs. You, at the time of the encounter – don’t suit them at all. Someone who sees through everything is frightening.
Their life isn’t controlled by feelings.
You have to know: You have a goal in this process, and your healing is conscious; the emotional clarifier does most things unconsciously. Those people don’t want to feel.
That is why he is called the emotional clarifier — clarifying feelings.
Everything you heal in yourself heals in him too.
I find that so beautiful. These days.
You can trust yourself and your twin soul. Everything you heal at the core automatically heals in them, too. I not only healed my ancestry to the core, but also theirs.
Let’s talk about the one who lets go:
The one who lets go is the heart-led person in this connection, who always considers others more important than themselves. They give and give, do and do, but rarely think of themselves. Setting boundaries is almost impossible, because they have learned that doing so means being alone and no longer receiving any love. They have to fulfil other people’s wishes.
In childhood, it was never safe to be themselves. They constantly had to be on guard and take on other people’s issues and feelings to keep the atmosphere pleasant.
The one who lets go needs to let go, get to know their own needs and stand up for them.
THE ONE WHO LETS GO DOES NOT LET GO OF THE EMOTIONAL CLARIFIER, BUT OF THE DRAMA THEY ASSOCIATE WITH LOVE.
Head and heart: Why do these two worlds meet each other?
Because they must balance their yin and yang aspects to achieve balance. Each with themselves, and then a partnership is possible. It doesn’t have to, but it can.
The emotional clarifier can listen more to his heart and the one who lets go has to use his mind and set boundaries.
If you think about it calmly, you do not seriously want a man who would rather be with another woman, who does not care how you are and does not even ask. Who draws you close when he wants you, but pushes you away when it does not suit him. And you dutifully remain available?!
That is why LETTING GO is incredibly important. It is the task that usually takes the longest. It is the fear of losing this love. Most people are quite capable of letting go of their twin at some point, but losing their own feelings for their twin soul is frightening.
Sabrina, if I let go, will I no longer want him? What if he comes along and I am no longer interested? Would I then be to blame for not having appreciated this special love enough?
Letting go has many different layers, and it’s crucial to get to that exact point.
You can recognise that there is a level on which this love remains untouched, while the drama goes. But who are you without this drama? Who are you without your suffering?
To break through this fear of LETTING GO, you can get our Healing Journey — Heart Opening here:
Link: Breaking Down Fears
