Why do I, the one who lets go, has to do all the work?
I asked myself this question often at the beginning of this process. I kept hearing from him, “You don’t have to resolve everything emotionally.” And transformation is all hocus-pocus. That was an interesting trigger for me 🙂 Because I had long since realized that he was growing along with it without actively feeling it, and he really liked that back then.
The trigger here is that the person letting go ultimately wants to be loved and saved. Let’s be honest, if it didn’t hurt so damn much, I probably wouldn’t have moved a millimeter. 🙂
Still, it feels like he’s doing what he wants; you have to suffer and resolve things, and he’s healing along with you.
She has to learn how to deal with this POWER.
The Profile of the Emotional Clearer:
The Emotional Clearer is a tough man on the outside, but tender, lovable, and wounded on the inside. He learned from childhood that love isn’t available without something in return. Love is negotiable and therefore very dangerous. He is head-driven and wants to be perceived as strong, independent, successful, and respected.
He has a good job, is often highly sought after, and is usually in a relationship (or he quickly finds one – as soon as he meets his dual). THE PERFECT WORLD. Usually, the woman at his side is an emotional clearer herself. None of this is true fulfillment, but that hasn’t been his goal for a long time.
On the outside, everything looks great, but in reality, he’s hiding his fears and the little hurt boy. He definitely doesn’t want to feel these wounds that he’s so well-hidden.
When he meets you, he doesn’t want hell, but he does want heaven. That’s why he takes exactly what he needs: beauty. And leaves you sitting with the rest, regardless of the consequences.
Twin souls bring out the most beautiful light and the deepest shadows.
Emotional clearers have built themselves a false world and wear a mask that they want to keep at all costs. You, at the time of the encounter – don’t suit them at all. 😊 Someone who sees through everything is frightening.
Their life isn’t controlled by feelings.
You have to know: You have a goal in this process, and your healing is conscious; the emotional clearer does most things unconsciously. Those people don’t want to feel.
That’s why they’re called emotional clearers – clearing feelings.Everything you heal in yourself heals in them too.
Nowadays, I think it is just beautiful. 🙂
You can trust yourself and your twin soul. Everything you heal at the core automatically heals in them, too. I not only healed my ancestry to the core, but also theirs.
Let’s talk about the person who lets go
The person who is letting go is the heart person in this relationship, who always considers others more important than themselves. They give and give and do and do, but they rarely think about themselves. Setting boundaries is almost impossible because the person who lets go has learned to be alone and this person does no longer receive any love at all. They have to fulfill the wishes of others.
For them it was never safe to be oneself in their own childhood, and they had to constantly be on guard and take away others’ issues and feelings in order to maintain a good mood.
The person who is letting go and who is the one who learns about it also asserts his or her own needs.
THE PERSON WHO IS LETTING GO DOESN’T LET GO OF THE EMOTIONAL CLARIFIER, BUT THE DRAMA, WHICH THEY ASSOCIATES WITH LOVE.
Head and heart: Why do these two worlds meet each other?
Because they must balance their yin and yang aspects to achieve balance. Each with themselves, and then a partnership is possible. It doesn’t have to, but it can.
The emotional clarifier can listen more to his heart and the one who lets go has to use his mind and 😊 set boundaries.
If you think about it objectively, you don’t seriously want a man who’d rather be with someone else, who doesn’t care how you’re doing, who doesn’t even ask questions.
Who pulls you along when he wants you, but pushes you away when it’s not convenient for him.
And you’re so available?!?
That’s why LETTING GO is incredibly important.
It’s the task that usually takes the longest. It’s the fear of losing that love. Most people are perfectly capable of letting go of their twin at some point, but losing one’s own feelings for their twin soul is frightening.Sabrina, if I let go, will I no longer want him? What if he comes along and I’m not interested? Am I to blame for not having appreciated this special love enough?
Letting go has many different layers, and it’s crucial to get to that exact point.
You are allowed to recognize that there is a level where this love remains untouched, but the drama continues. But who are you without this drama? Who are you without your suffering? To break through this fear of LETTING GO, you can secure our Healing Journey – Heart Opening here:
Link: Breaking Down Fears
With deep love,
Sabrina Spinnler