With social conditioning, you will NEVER be able to live a fulfilling relationship on equal terms.
Conditioning does always mean that you settle for less than what is TRULY intended for you.^
Often, however, these patterns and behaviors occur unconsciously. That’s why we keep getting men or women who aren’t right for us, or who lack deep fulfillment and connection.
In a relationship on equal terms, everyone has only one goal. He or she will see you at your greatest potential and wants your true CORE.
He or she does everything for that.
You will be triggered, you will be hurt, you will be loved, you will be complemented, you will be EMPOWERED!!
It is easier said than done.
After all, we have a precise idea of what suits us and how it should be.
This means you’re not comparing with the true core, but with your ego, and of course, you’ll get exactly that result.
A woman who is more needy (GIVER) and a man who is more avoidant (AVOID).
Conscious people come to us, those who long for DEPTH. They know that awakened, spiritual sexuality and deep connections are a growth booster for one`s own personality and vision.Our clients have already done a lot of work on themselves.
But no matter what they do, they feel like they’re stuck in a cycle. After every meditation, energy treatment, mindset training, etc., they may feel better in the short term, but in the long run, the results remain the same. It’s as if a pattern repeats itself over and over again.
☯️In case you know everything but nothing changes, you can feel- feel what you never felt before.
If the wish does not come true, it is often due to the following profiles:
➡️ The avoidable man– the avoider!
➡️ The needy woman- the giver!
(Yes, a woman can also be avoidant, or a man the giver, but that is rarely the case 🙂 Therefore, it is easier to explain and formulate:
The man longs for fulfilling, deep sexuality and partnership, but avoids it and is happy to settle for less. Superficial acquaintances or typical Adam and Eve relationships are the result. The avoidant is afraid of losing his freedom. Love was negotiable in his childhood.
Either he had a mother who loved him too much but wanted recognition in return, and he had learned: that LOVE means I have to be available all the time, and so he is tending to avoid this.
He is afraid of his feelings and he associates these with effort or he is feeling restricted.
Or his father was physically or mentally absent. Here, too, he associates that love is not available and that he has to be strong and has to be free on his own. He can heal his father and mother wounds and CLARIFY his FEELINGS.
The woman longs for deep devotion and she longs for letting herself go. However, she is suffering from old wounds and therefore likes to control. She is afraid of receiving; she is more accustomed to GIVING in order to receive love and recognition.
As a child, she received love primarily through achievement, and her own needs were suppressed, while those of others took priority. As a result, she lives a distorted energy flow. She is giving instead of receiving.
To experience full devotion, she has to let go and she has to learn to increase and embody her own value.
Both profiles require healing their inner wounds from their childhood and the release of social conditioning.
The deeper the love, the more all the shadows rise to the surface. This allows you to break through the walls of your heart, it allows you to open yourself wide, and still rest firmly within yourself.
It’s about more than just partnership on equal terms; it’s about putting everything into divine order.
Love serves to help you become who you truly are and is a fantastic mirror of your inner issues. We need the triggers to find ourselves.
Everyone has been given a soul purpose, a divine plan, and a gift that he or she is privileged to bring into the world. It’s about serving and becoming rich in the process. In your job, in relationships—everywhere!
But through the wounds, which we did not only receive in childhood, but which have been passed down for centuries and which we carry within us, we protect ourselves from injury, live victim/perpetrator and ego relationships, feel like we’re not good enough, are afraid of our greatness and who we really are, and make lazy compromises. In truth, we are afraid of love. Yes, because it destroys everything, EVERYTHING that isn’t love. But since our identity is largely controlled by ego, conditioning, and old wounds, it feels like our personality and everything we have believed and learned dies upon awakening.
The question is how one evaluates that. As a loss or a gain? When you finally have to trust your inner voice and the external support (the apparent security) disappears. That is devotion to life, devotion to God, devotion to yourself, that is LOVE… So that you are open, so that you can receive what is intended for you. Not what you want, NO, what is intended for you! Full stop.
To be honest, you only lose what wasn’t meant for you. Fake attracts fake. If you want DEPTH, you must allow DEPTH.
It’s time for us to wake up and finally be ready to truly heal all wounds holistically so that we can create a paradise on Earth again.
Love, Sabrina Spinnler